I'd like to make this clear to everyone. Before Andy and I got married he did his due diligence. There was full disclosure about just what he was marrying. I warned him. I introduced him to my family. He spent time around my mom. In fact, when he went to ask my dad for my hand in marriage, my dad responded by saying "poor boy".* So, don't feel too bad for him. He was warned.
*Yes, he really did go to my dad before proposing to me. I'm not sure which impressed me more, how sweet that was...or how brave.