I've been complaining about Michael dropping his nap at 2.5 years to just about anyone who will listen. I was devastated when he dropped his nap. On weekends, his nap time was also my nap time, and I really did need those extra four hours of sleep. It also gave everyone a nice break from one another. A 2.5 year old for 12 hours straight is a lot to handle. A 3.75 year old even more so.
However, over time we have adjusted to the change. We've gotten into a routine that works for everyone. On the weekends, Andy and I play tag team to give each other a break. During the week, Michael goes to bed early and everyone gets a break.
It turns out that Michael's daycare has a two hour nap/rest time. To my knowledge, Michael has never actually slept during that time. He does indicate that he's resting, but you can never trust a 3.75 year old to report things accurately. What I'm noticing though, is that he's having more trouble falling asleep on daycare days. It's possible that he's just feeling extra clingy on those days, or it's possible that he's getting enough rest that he doesn't need to go to bed. Whatever is going on, it pretty much sucks.
If it was every day, I'd just put him to bed later and after a few weeks, I think we would all adjust. However, it's not every day. Instead, he stays up late on those nights, and then doesn't want to get up the next day. I mean he REALLY, REALLY doesn't want to get up. Once I get him out of bed, he stalls and whines and resists every move towards the door. When we get to my mom's, it gets even worse. He clings, he screams, he throws Pez dispensers at me. Yesterday I had to carry him into my mom's apartment, dump him, then hold the door from the outside while my mom latches the deadbolt. It's a nightmare.
I don't know how to solve this problem. The best thing would be for the daycare to let him skip nap time, but I doubt that's going to happen. I'm going to pick him up today, and I'm going to see if I can talk to his teacher to find out just how much rest he's really getting, and see if there are any changes we can make to ease the problem.
If not, at least in a year and a half he'll start kindergarten and we'll have new problems to deal with.